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August 22nd, 2005
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Coming together
Have you ever had one of those time periods where everything goes wrong? Sure you have. Everyone has.

But have you ever had one of those periods where everything goes right?

I sure have. And it's been a long time in coming.

A week ago Friday, I finally got a check for my share of the house that alynna, toy_dragon, krasnayath and I used to live in. Yesterday, I finally moved out the last of the items in that house that I had any claim to. I no longer have any ties to a place I don't inhabit. It's a liberating feeling -- for about a year now, I've had a significant financial stake in the house, and it was a financial and time drain to try to guide that through to a successful conclusion. Both of those drains have vanished, replaced by a wad of money that isn't a profit but isn't really a loss either. The way I see it, getting that weight off my shoulders makes nearly breaking even a win.

On top of that, today kadyg and I had our rings delivered. "Rings?" I hear you ask. It's a fair question with a happy answer: We're officially engaged!

My parents' first question when I told them the news was "How did you propose to her?" -- which is probably a more common question than I'm giving it credit for, so I should give more detail here.1 It's sort of a boring story, though. The bottom line is that we've been living together for about a year and a half now, taking things as they've come and gradually giving more thought to our future. We've gotten gradually more comfortable over that time with the idea of spending the rest of our lives together and with the idea of a mutual commitment. (She was shy of the idea at first due to a previous marriage and divorce; I was shy of it for reasons I'll detail in a later post.) So, um, we pretty much just talked about it and decided that the idea was right. No big, life-changing romantic gestures yet, although I'm sure we can come up with one.

Today's other big landmark was that -- mostly thanks to the house sale clearing -- I mailed off my final check, and I am finally debt-free2.

If you think that my and Kady's engagement was a long time in coming, take a moment and realize that the momentous little sentence just above is something that I have been trying to accomplish since the beginning of 2002. I've weathered unemployment, breaking an arm while uninsured, and a few years of ascetic living along the way, and it's been a hell of a roller-coaster ride.

I've been chasing that dream for three and a half years. I've finally caught it. I plan to revel in this brief, shining moment, and keep that shine going for as un-briefly as I possibly can.

All things considered, I feel better right now than I have in a long, long time. I've closed two chapters in my life that I'm glad to have behind me, and I've opened up a third that I'm excited to get started with. I love you, Kady. ]B=8)

Perseverance, patience, tenderness, and compassion have paid off in a big way, and there's more than enough of them to go around as I continue to chase my other long-term plans and help my fiancée with hers.


1. To answer other engagement questions, let me borrow from Kady's post:

"No, we haven't set a date yet.
No, there will not be a big wedding. So far the plan is small wedding/elopement and splashy reception later - so our mothers have something to work on.
No, we haven't registered anywhere yet, but Amazon is looking pretty tempting.
Yes, we're very happy. The word "glowing" has been used to describe me once already today."

Also, by prior request, ring pictures will be posted to our Livejournals shortly.


2. I'm still floating a fairly large loan for a friend; that's sitting on a credit card in my name and will be paid back at his pace. However, the main idea still stands: I personally have not made any expenditures still awaiting payback.

Current Mood: excitedw00t!
Current Music: Babble, "Spirit"
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 02:14 am (UTC)
Oh wow, congradulations! Best of luck to you both, though looks like you are definately starting out on the right foot, with debts taken care of and millstones removed from the neck, so luck and love is really all you need now *grins*
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 02:36 am (UTC)
Squee! Many counts of congratulations and good luck and things like that all around.
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 02:47 am (UTC)
Congratulations to both of you on your engagement (and extra congratulations to the debt-free dragon)! I wish you both the best of luck.
Date:August 23rd, 2005 03:20 am (UTC)
Congratulations on all counts!! Fantastic news.
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 05:02 am (UTC)
So, so glad for you - for both of you. :) I do love you still, you know, and that's a big part of why I'm so happy that you're happy. *huge hugs* *squeeeeee*
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 06:42 am (UTC)
I know I've said it once, but it bears repeating:

When's the party? Do I get to make fun of you at it? Oh, and congratulations!
Date:August 23rd, 2005 08:34 am (UTC)
Congratulations! It's a shame that reaching solvency is so important nowadays that it sits up there with engagement, though.
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 12:37 pm (UTC)
Well, it wouldn't have been quite so important if I hadn't told myself I would do it three and a half years ago and beeen working on it ever since. It sort of took on a life of its own.

Average U.S. credit card debt is a little over $9,000 per household, though, so I suspect there's a lot of people in my shoes.

And thank you!
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 08:42 am (UTC)
Congrats to the two of you!
It's great to log in first thing in the morning and get to read very good news about nice people -- and thank you for that, Baxil!
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 12:34 pm (UTC)
Woo! Yay!
Date:August 23rd, 2005 01:45 pm (UTC)
{is full of vicarious squee}

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Date:August 23rd, 2005 02:35 pm (UTC)
woohoo!!!! Congratulations!!!! I am very happy for you guys. Hey, if anyone can pull off the life-commitment thing, it's you.
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 05:12 pm (UTC)
Congratulations to you both! And congratulations just on having a long string of rightness. A string like this is an event in itself, no matter what it consists of. ;)
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 06:01 pm (UTC)
congratulations, yet thinking such since 2004 :-)

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Date:August 23rd, 2005 06:01 pm (UTC)


And best wishes
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Date:August 23rd, 2005 06:16 pm (UTC)
Congratulations and best wishes to both of you.
It brightens mi day to see two souls find each other ^^
Date:August 24th, 2005 12:07 am (UTC)

Woo hoo!

Congrats to you both. As you have both figured out you make a great couple. Best wishes for the future.

Are those packs of jackal pups I see twinkling in your eyes?

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Date:August 24th, 2005 04:27 am (UTC)

Re: Woo hoo!

We're ecologically responsible jackals. We don't believe in litter.
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Date:August 24th, 2005 01:32 am (UTC)
Congratulations to the both of you!
"Glowing" is always a good sign in a relationship.

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Date:August 24th, 2005 01:54 am (UTC)

I haven't seen you today, but the monitor screen is glowing! I'll take it that you're glowing just as brightly as (and a bit less cathode ray-like than) it.
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Date:August 24th, 2005 07:17 pm (UTC)
Congrats Bax! That's very cool!
Date:August 25th, 2005 12:01 am (UTC)
Never knew that logic riddles were THAT good in karma...

I'd make congratulatory noises, toss small pieces of paper into the air, shoot kinetically powerful pieces of cork to open champagne, and the like, but I think that's been covered pretty well so far.

So, instead, I hope you have good luck in the future.
-Melon-Guy(Found my password!)
Date:August 27th, 2005 01:55 am (UTC)
Congratulations, you two! Couldn't have happened to a nicer set of people :D I'm sure you'll do things your own unique ways, and probably have more fun than most in the process.
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